Feeling melancholy today...I just heard that a high school classmate of mine committed suicide recently. Hadn?t seen him in years, but we played sports together as kids, and had a friendly air in school. He was popular, smart, athletic. Good second-baseman for our state runner-up team as seniors, and supported local youth baseball for years afterwards until he moved away. Had a great job in IT consulting last I heard from him, in 2011 or so.
Unfortunately, he was also crippled by untreated bi-polar disorder. This disease slowly drove him into isolation, away from friends and family. Cost him a marriage, then a second one to what I am reasonably sure was a mail-order bride. His Facebook feed was mostly arcane, techno-posts. Warning signs.
It culminated in ugly fashion, with recent child prostitution charges that saw him paraded into court on television, and his name splashed across the Metro section of the newspaper. He bonded out, and facing trial, used the opportunity to end his own life. Alone in his home and in despair...as I suspect he spent much of the past five years.
One of our classmates, and a former neighbor his as children, had been in contact with him recently, following the public announcement of charges. She is one of those true angels among us, willing to do that sort of thing when most of us would turn away or condemn. She tried to counsel him to seek help, but he was too far down the path at that point. She told me this morning that she believed even now that he was ?a good kid?. I told her that was probably true, but people have different sides.
Tough to focus this morning...texts and IMs are flying about. But life calls, as always. I thought I?d share though, and maybe offer some perspective as we hack away at each other in here day after day. But by the grace of God go we all, or something like that.
Unfortunately, he was also crippled by untreated bi-polar disorder. This disease slowly drove him into isolation, away from friends and family. Cost him a marriage, then a second one to what I am reasonably sure was a mail-order bride. His Facebook feed was mostly arcane, techno-posts. Warning signs.
It culminated in ugly fashion, with recent child prostitution charges that saw him paraded into court on television, and his name splashed across the Metro section of the newspaper. He bonded out, and facing trial, used the opportunity to end his own life. Alone in his home and in despair...as I suspect he spent much of the past five years.
One of our classmates, and a former neighbor his as children, had been in contact with him recently, following the public announcement of charges. She is one of those true angels among us, willing to do that sort of thing when most of us would turn away or condemn. She tried to counsel him to seek help, but he was too far down the path at that point. She told me this morning that she believed even now that he was ?a good kid?. I told her that was probably true, but people have different sides.
Tough to focus this morning...texts and IMs are flying about. But life calls, as always. I thought I?d share though, and maybe offer some perspective as we hack away at each other in here day after day. But by the grace of God go we all, or something like that.
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