OT: Technology and Geek Stuff Thread

[Larsky]

This "money" thing sounds interesting. Maybe I'll try to get some.

[froot loops]

I'm on the same wavelength as CVGT as far as money goes. She keeps the checkbook. When we got married we both had a couple of checking accounts but she said she really liked paying the bills. That was fine with me.

[Panoptes]

Being the trained accountant, I handle all the household finances and the wife has zero complaints. She loves not having to deal with any of that stuff after a hard days work.

[Dr. Emmett.L.Brown]

I don't care what anybody says...if someone is giving their "ex" child support there should have to be receipts produced on demand that show that the custodial parent actually spent that money on the child(ren).

I agree 110%
Im going through a bit of this myself....
I dont have as much shit as DanO has had to go through
But my "ex" has been a Bitch as well....
Telling me I have to buy things ON TOP OF the Ass load of $$ she gets..
So far my Money goes to keeping the "ex" in fancy clothes, a nice apt. and a new car....:x :x :x

[Panoptes]

IIRC, you can buy all the necessities she requests for the kid, keep copies of the receipts, send her the original and then send a check for the balance of the child support due each month.

That would stop em from crying wolfe.

[DanO]

It's better to marry it Larsky.

"I don't care what anybody says...if someone is giving their "ex" child support there should have to be receipts produced on demand that show that the custodial parent actually spent that money on the child(ren)."
---------------------------I totally agree unfortunately the FOC doesn't give a shit what she spends the money on.

"Telling me I have to buy things ON TOP OF the Ass load of $$ she gets..
So far my Money goes to keeping the "ex" in fancy clothes, a nice apt. and a new car.... "
------------------------Sounds real familiar Doc.
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[mason reese]

"I kind of understand the vacation thing, but the car thing is just insane."
----------------------------The hunting thing was something I had done for years. It was tradition. It wasn't something new or like I was saying I'm going to the Caribbean for a week. If she had an annual event she did for years when I met her and assuming we could afford it, I would not have told her she couldn't do it anymore(which Kellie tried to do with hunting) nor would I expect an equal amount of time to do something else. I encouraged her to go out with her friends and I would stay home with the kids. She on the other hand announced to her family that I wasn't "allowed" to go out by myself. I may have a different philosophy when it comes to relationships but I think it's heathy for the relationship if each person has time to spend with their friends and not everything has to be done together.

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Kellie sounds extremely immature. When I said I understood the vacation thing, it was more from the point of view that if my wife took off and left me with the kid (or in your case kids) 24/7 for a week; by the time she came back I would need to go on a vacation myself. It was less about pound for pound equity, and more for wellness of being.

I didn't realize that she also tried to stop you from going.

[DanO]

Oh ya she tried the first few years.

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[Coop]

the two most common issues in a marriage are sex and money

I do all the finances but she has a very tough time with not spending......

[dsred]

IIRC, you can buy all the necessities she requests for the kid, keep copies of the receipts, send her the original and then send a check for the balance of the child support due each month.

That would stop em from crying wolfe.

Not true. You are the wallet, she is the "parent" who decides what the money is best spent on.

[Malto Marko]

IIRC, you can buy all the necessities she requests for the kid, keep copies of the receipts, send her the original and then send a check for the balance of the child support due each month.

That would stop em from crying wolfe.

Not true in Michigan, either.

Anything purchased in addition to support payments is considered a gift. Support payments are set by FOC and Administered by the State. It is now SOP to have support payments taken out of your check from the employer.

[unknown lions fan]

And as an employer, I get to administer the program for them. More paperwork and compliance for me.

[YT]

And as an employer, I get to administer the program for them. More paperwork and compliance for me.

Honestly ULF, I don't know how you (and all other small business owners) do it!

With all the governament paperwork and compliance issues on everything under the sun, it's enough to make a grown man drink.....


ummmmm.......nevermind

[Dr. Emmett.L.Brown]

Not true in Michigan, either.

Anything purchased in addition to support payments is considered a gift. Support payments are set by FOC and Administered by the State. It is now SOP to have support payments taken out of your check from the employer.

And what grabs me by the balls is the fact that they base what you
pay on your past year of earnings.
I worked a TON of overtime one year only to come back and have it bite me in the ass BIG TIME the next.
Nearly double from one year to the next.
And to make matters worse was the year after I worked the OT
our co. production #'s went down..meaning layoffs...so for a few weeks
I got to pay that big ass chunk o money out of my unemployment check.

I want to hang the person who came up with the term "Friend of the Court"

[DanO]

Doc, Every man I know affectionately refers to the FOC as "Friend of the Cunt". Sorry ladies.

I fully understand what you're talking about with the OT. It's complete bullshit. They shouldn't even consider OT for several reasons(which you can't argue with the FOC it's like talking to a wall). #1) I don't dictate the OT available my employer does thus making OT unreliable. #2) I don't have the ability to assign OT if it is available thus making OT unreliable. #3) I have to be available to work the OT thus making OT unreliable. #4) I have to want to work the OT thus making OT unreliable. They should base "child support"(ex wife support because it doesn't take that much to raise the kids) on your base salary. Everyone works OT for a better SOL for themselves and their family. I work OT so I can do things with and for my kids as well as supply them with the necessities of life. The FOC looks at that and says let's give that to the ex bitch. If you try to work more OT the next year to provide niceties for your kids the FOC says let's give that to your ex bitch.

I just went to an FOC hearing which I filed. I had 3 months of check stubs showing a significant reduction in earnings plus another month of time sheets which my boss had signed showing similar income. I also had a letter from my boss and the city HR department stating they were trying to significantly reduce OT if not eliminate it at all. They looked at my check and asked about my comp time which I had accrued mostly last year and cannot be cashed out. They added the time I had accrued as income and then had the audacity to tell me my support could go up. What a fucking piece of shit system. Here's the real kicker. It's not like I don't want my kids but they won't let me have them as much as I want because I have a penis. Then they tell me I have to pay for the time I don't have them. FUCK YOU FOC--t.

Of course none of this can happen unless the ex wants it. There in lies my real animosity. I supported that bitch when we were married, got her out of debt while we were married, and straightened out her credit Then she leaves under an agreement of a fair child support amount and then she spends herself into debt again and I come to the rescue with $8000.00 the first year of divorce. Then I took out a 31,500.00 home equity loan the second year to save her from bankruptcy(I got fucked over twice by this). Three months after getting the $31,500.00 she started filing shit and I've been dealing with it ever since(1 year). I can't get over my hatred for this bitch and she continues to fuel the fire. I should have listened to Deb and others when they said don't give her the loan but I was an idiot. I'd still be going through the same shit because she's a finacial idiot but I wouldn't have gotten screwed on that deal.

Sorry. I get a little excited when I talk about this.

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